Add A Child. Something went wrong. Please contact support fatherly. Like fatherly on Facebook. Something went wrong please contact us at support fatherly. By Lauren Vinopal. Photo Illustration: Mark Forscher. Sex can be an emotionally-intense experience—no matter how close you are with your sexual partner , the very act involves a degree of vulnerability.
You did just see each other naked , after all. And if you've ever found yourself fighting back tears in the breathless aftermath , you're not alone. There are even several terms for the phenomenon: Post-sex crying is also known as postcoital dysphoria PCD , postcoital tristesse "tristesse" is the French word for melancholy or sadness , or more plainly, post-sex blues. But what causes someone to get sad after sex?
We asked some experts to break it down for us. Well, it isn't abnormal. There's no set definition of the appropriate intensity of feelings to have during an intimate encounter , and that applies to both positive and negative emotions. While bursting into tears in bed might make for an awkward moment particularly if the person you're with isn't your spouse or serious partner , it doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong with you.
What little research there is does suggest it's happened to a hefty chunk of the population. According to one study surveying college-age women, 46 percent reported at least one instance of crying after sex in their lifetime.
Another study including 1, men in also saw 41 percent of subjects reporting at least one post-sex cry, with just over 20 percent experiencing it in the previous four weeks. Unresolved issues and emotional confusion from a relationship can invade your sex life. You might have different ideas about where the relationship stands or how the other person really feels about you. Sometimes one or both of you are left confused and disappointed.
If you find yourself crying frequently it could be a sign of depression or other mental health condition that should be addressed. The rate of PCD is higher for those with postpartum depression. That may be due to rapid fluctuations in hormone levels. If this has become a frequent problem, you may want to take a break from sex. Consider seeing a qualified therapist who can help you work on coping skills.
For physical pain or discomfort just prior to, during, or after sex, see a doctor. Many causes of this type of pain are treatable. Otherwise, think about the reasons for crying. Here are some questions to ask yourself in the moment:. If your answers point toward emotional issues within the relationship or in the bedroom, here are a few things to try:. They can help you unpack the reason for your tears and potentially work through any underlying concerns.
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